Talking about Nursing Homes: broaching the subject
Discussing the possibility of going into a nursing home can be an emotional, not to mention practical, minefield. Alongside logistical questions, such as fees, location and needs, there are emotional and spiritual considerations to be made. Broaching the topic of nursing homes can be difficult, but by being open and honest, you will be able to make an informed decision about whether or not a move into a nursing home is right for all involved.
By talking through the pros and cons of the care options available, you will gain an understanding of mutual fears and barriers to moving into a nursing home. Once you understand these concerns, you will be better able to address them and realise that they are not, in fact, insurmountable.
Every person’s preconceptions and misgivings will be different, but often the core emotions stem from a desire to protect and do the best for the people they love:
If you are considering a nursing home for yourself - you may be worried that your loved ones will feel that they have let you down, that they can’t provide you with the support that you need. Emphasise that this is not the case; that you simply feel it would be best for you to be somewhere where your needs can be met on a day-to-day basis, leaving you and your loved one to enjoy happy times together, building special memories unencumbered by the burden of daily practicalities and care.
If you are considering a nursing home for someone you love - they may feel that they have become a burden to you and that you are no longer willing to support them at home. Make sure that they understand that your priority is their happiness and safety, and that you think they may have a better quality of life in a good, trusted nursing home. Point out the many options available in different nursing homes, including fun, social elements and activities alongside enhanced physical and medical care.
In both respects, it could help to do a little research into the nursing homes near you, so that you can see the many options available, from supported living with social clubs and a restaurant, to residential nursing homes with residents’ gardening. It can also help to talk to friends about how you feel; topics that can be difficult to broach with loved ones can be easier to discuss with peers. If this is the case, you could enlist the help of friends to help talk through the possibilities, so that you can be open and honest about your needs.
Whatever the outcome of your discussions, make sure that everyone understands that you have one common goal; to ensure the ongoing happiness, emotional and physical wellbeing and optimal quality of life for all of the people involved.
If you do decide that a residential care home is the best choice, Trusted Care can help you to find a nursing home that meets your needs. With detailed profiles on each registered nursing home, you will be able to find one that has the facilities, specialisms and activities that will make the nursing home feel like a true home. For more information about Trusted Care, or if you would like help finding a nursing home near you, please contact us.